Choosing Your Theme

Choosing a Wedding Theme

A wedding theme can provide the framework to a coordinated wedding plan. Everything from colors to decorations to reception food can be incorporated in the theme of the wedding. But how do you choose a theme?

 

Start by looking at your hobbies and interests. Many couples have chosen Star Trek or Elvis themes. Serving Klingon punch at the reception or having a jump suited King officiating will make for a memorable day.

 

Another popular theme source is seasonal or holiday. Spring pastels, autumn brights, or Christmas festive will give you a color framework to start with.

 

The fairytale fantasy wedding is every little girl's dream. Frilly, poufy dresses in pastel colors, flowers everywhere, delicate finger foods—all these work within the theme.

 

The outdoor wedding is a popular alternative. Popular themes include beach, Western, or luau themes. Be sure to have an adequate "Plan B" in the event of rain—large tents can provide shelter from the storm, or shade from midday sun. Be sure to allow for adequate electrical, water, and sanitary facilities.

 

Vintage weddings usually choose a decade in the past, then incorporate fashion, music, and food from that era. Choose a beaded flapper-style dress for a Roaring Twenties theme. Or recruit your Shirley Temple lookalike niece for your Fifties flower girl.

 

Finally, your wedding theme can build on your unique romantic history. A special move or dance theme, or even "your song" can provide inspiration for a unique wedding theme.

 

Destination weddings are another popular choice for high-end weddings. Many resorts now offer wedding packages to accommodate couples looking for this theme.

 

Make sure your partner is in agreement on the theme. What might seem like a "cute" idea in the daydreaming stage could be a source of embarrassment later on. On the one hand, you want a coordinated event. On the other hand, you don't want to be ridiculous.

 

Will today's trendy movie theme look silly in your wedding album thirty years from now?

 

Your partner may be reluctant to express misgivings about the theme you've chosen in deference to this being "your" day; watch for signs like cringing, rolling eyes, changing the subject when the wedding theme is being discussed, not paying attention when wedding plans are being discussed, or delaying or avoiding clothing fittings. As for honest feedback and be willing to accept that feedback and modify your plans accordingly. After all, it's HIS wedding, too!

 

Having a theme can make planning easier and help you put together a coordinated, unique event that will live in your memories forever.